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How Parents Can Handle Five of the Most Frustrating (and Common) Teenage Problems

9/14/2017

 
Bad grades. Behavior problems at school. Curfew violations. These are just a few of the problems many parents have to navigate as their children become teenagers.

How are you handling these situations in your house? Lots of yelling, grounding and taking phones?

I bet you're tired. Frustrated. Unsure of what to do next.

What if I told you there is a better way?

If you're looking for tips on how to handle these problems once and for all, then you're in the right place. This e-book was written JUST FOR YOU!

Click below to access your free copy of my e-book:
How Not to Start an Argument with Your Teen OR What to Say When.

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Saying YES is Not Enough: The Issue of Consent

2/17/2016

 
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Have you had chance to talk to your teen about the definition of consent for sexual activity? If so, what did you learn? If not, what is keeping you from asking?

In case you missed it, check out part one of this post to learn more: The #1 Parenting Mistake You Don't Know You're Making.

When I ask teen clients about what consenting to sex means, I typically get one of two answers.
  1. Saying yes.
  2. I don’t know.

Do either of these sound like the answer to your question from your teen?

The truth is, simply saying yes to sex is not enough. Making an assumption that you know what the other person wants is definitely not enough.

Keep reading to learn more about all of the aspects of giving true, informed consent to sexual activity.*
  • Every state has a legal age of consent for sexual contact. In Colorado, a child younger than 15 years of age cannot give consent to sexual behavior. Also, unless both partners are over the age of 18, one person cannot be more than 3 years older than the other.
  • Each person needs to be sober and “in their right mind.” Being high, drunk or on intoxicating prescription medications means a person cannot truly give consent. Also, both people must be awake and function at about the same level of intelligence.
  • Both people must be equals. One person cannot be in a position of power over the other. This means that babysitters, teachers, and bosses cannot have sex with the people they watch, teach or supervise.
  • The sexual partners cannot be related. Generally speaking, this includes relatives by blood, adoption and marriage.
  • Both people understand and agree to the kind of sexual behavior to be done. Do not make assumptions. The only way to know if someone is consenting to have sex with you is by TALKING ABOUT IT.
  • Sex should happen in the context of a relationship. This is a controversial point to many in a society where “one night stands” are common and accepted by many. Here’s the thing… how can you be absolutely certain that all of the above criteria are met if you do not know the person? You can’t. Period.

Now is the time to start talking with your teen about consent. If you don’t, who will?

*This blog post is meant to be purely informational. The writer is not able to provide legal advice or instruction in anyway. Questions about specific examples will not be answered in the comments. Please contact an attorney if you have questions or concerns.


Bethany Raab is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Denver, Colorado.
She is dedicated to helping teens and families be happy and healthy!

52 Journal Prompts to Help You Connect With Your Teen This Year!

1/13/2016

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Start writing with your teen!

Directions and prompts are all included on this three page document, created just for YOU and your family!

Read about the difference between diaries and journals: Journaling: Different Than a Diary
Get 10 more prompts to write about with your teen:
10 Journal Prompts for Teens and Parents

Scroll down to download a PDF of this great list!
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Bethany Raab is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Denver, Colorado.
She is dedicated to helping teens and families be happy and healthy!
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10 Journal Prompts for Teens and Their Parents

1/6/2016

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Need a new way to communicate with your teen?

One of the neatest tools I have come across in my years as a teen therapist is a journal specifically made for adolescent girls and their mothers. It is a “back and forth” style book to help young women connect in a meaningful way with their mom.

The thing is... not every teen girl has an involved mother, and not every mother has a teen daughter. Plus, boys and fathers are left out of this activity entirely!

Below you will find ten journal prompts to share with your teenage son or daughter. These are a mix of fun/silly topics and more serious, thought-provoking prompts.

First, choose a book or notebook that you will share. (You can also type documents on a computer, but give the handwritten journal a try first!) Pick a pen to keep with your journal. Agree on a safe place to leave the book for the other to read. It is important that both of you agree that what is written is private and not to be shared without the other person's permission.

Okay! Now you're all set! Click below to access TEN prompts to get you writing!


Ten Journal Prompts
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Like this? Click here for a year-long set of journal prompts for teens and their parents!

Want to begin writing in your own journal? Go here to get started: Journaling: Different Than a Diary

Bethany Raab is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker in Denver, Colorado.
She is dedicated to helping teens and families be happy and healthy!
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